For some reason, it made Suzanne think about miscarriage and how little support women who've had them sometimes receive. Granted, the Superbowl has a party atmosphere. It's a happy, fun thing. A miscarriage is a sad thing to say the very least.. You might think this is an apples and oranges type of comparison, but I think I see her point.

If a woman who'd had a miscarriage could count on the same level of support that a professional sports team gets in its biggest game, that would be huge. When we support a team, we don't generally know them personally. However, if a woman who'd had a miscarriage could only count on support from the significant people in her life, it would still be a very big deal.

Suzanne talked about finding your cheerleaders. Just a a professional sports team uses a specific group of people to get the fans excited about them, you need a specific group of people who are rooting for you. These might be others who've experienced similar losses. They might just be people who care about you and are willing to listen.

Taking Suzanne's musings further, what if we devoted the same amount of time and attention to miscarriage that we devote to the Superbowl? At the very least, most people would more aware of miscarriage. People whose lives had never been touched by such a loss would know that between 20 and 25% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage or infant loss. People who have remained silent when co-workers or neighbors lost babies would have a better idea of what to say. Women who'd experienced miscarriages would know that other people at least had a chance at understanding those losses.

What if an organization like the NFL, actually took the time to recognize pregnancy and infant loss? It's not unprecedented. The NFL, once an old boys network, is increasingly interested in its female fan base and issues that concern them (and miscarriages affect men too). During the month of October, many players wear pink in support of breast cancer awareness. Why not acknowledge miscarriage as well?

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Another passenger from the grounded Costa Concordia cruise ship has filed a lawsuit; this time, over a miscarriage she suffered after the accident.

The woman, identified as Cristina M., was four months pregnant on January 13 when she boarded the Costa Condordia, said The Herald Sun. The Costa Concordia struck a rock off the coast of the Italian island of Giglio on Friday that night. The collision tore a 160-foot hole in the hull of the ship, and caused the vessel to capsize.

The ship was carrying 4,200 passengers and crew when it crashed. To date, 17 bodies have been recovered and, at least 16 people, including a five-year-old Italian girl, her father, and two Americans, are missing and presumed dead. Rescue efforts were called off last week after officials deemed the wreckage too dangerous for divers.

Cristina M. (30), who is suing the ship’s owners for one million euros ($1.2 million) in damages, according to Italian media, escaped the Costa Concordia in a lifeboat and was admitted last week to the hospital, suffering from a miscarriage, said The Herald Sun. According to her physicians, Cristina M. likely suffered the miscarriage over intense psychological stress resulting from the Costa Concordia crash and evacuation and her lifeboat crashing into rocks as she was being brought to shore.

Christina M’s case is being included in a class action against Costa Crociere; her lawyers are also seeking damages for the miscarriage. Although Costa Crociere and survivor advocacy groups have come to an agreement in which about 3,000 survivors will receive 11,000 euros ($13,500) each as well as cruise costs and expenses, other legal claims have been made against the vessels’ parent companies. The Costa Concordia is owned by Costa Crociere SpA, a subsidiary of Miami-based Carnival Corp.

In the U.S., six passengers are suing Carnival Cruise Lines for $460 million; in France, numerous passengers rejected the $13,500 deal and have filed legal complaints in courts in France; in Germany, 19 people have filed criminal charges against Francesco Schettino, the ship’s captain, said The Herald Sun.

We recently wrote that, last month, a Costa Concordia crewmember filed a $100 million class action lawsuit against Costa and Carnival in federal court in Chicago. Among other things, the complaint alleges the defendants failed to carry out safety drills to prepare passengers for an accident and didn’t notify them of the danger to the ship after water began flooding the engine room. The Italian consumer group, Codacons, has also stated its intent to file a lawsuit in Miami seeking between $164,000 and $1.3 million per Concordia passenger.

We also recently wrote that a Telegraph report said that people on Giglio are threatening Costa and Carnival with their own lawsuit. The island relies heavily on tourism, and locals fear the site of the capsized Concordia and threats posed by a potential rupture of its fuel tanks could deter divers, snorkelers and other tourists from making trips to the Island. “With this watery grave in the middle of the sea, people won’t want to come…. I have long-standing customers who are writing to me to cancel their bookings,” one Giglio hotel owner told the Telegraph.

And, an island spokesperson told an Italian newspaper that officials there have warned Costa Cruises and Carnival that they must remove the downed ship quickly, without polluting the sea, otherwise they will file their own class action complaint. Salvage experts say it could take up to 10 months to siphon fuel from the Concordia and remove the massive ship.

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Sarah D. talks with a Hannibal woman who has buried seven children.

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The graveside service was held Monday at 10 a.m.  and community members and local ministers were present to show their respect

 / Chrissy Mueller

HANNIBAL, MO. — Among the handful of people at the service for two fetuses buried in Hannibal was a mourner we’ll call Lisa.

Lisa came to pay her respects because she understands in a way many of us can’t begin to conceive. Lisa has buried her own stillborn babies. Seven times.

That’s seven little children tucked into seven small caskets buried in seven tiny plots in her hometown cemetery. Seven babies who never knew life outside the womb, but seven deaths mourned deeply by their mother.

“I wanted a child more than anyone will ever know,” Lisa told me as we talked alongside the tiny casket that held two stillborn babies who were delivered by an unknown mother at about five months gestation. Click here for related coverage.  The births happened sixty years ago; we can never know what the mother went through, but Lisa can certainly relate. “I felt so empty,” she said.

Each miscarriage for Lisa was terribly painful. Her last was especially devastating. She was just ten days from her due date when she went into labor. Lisa wrapped up her stillborn infant and brought the little girl home. She made arrangements for the child to be buried next to her six sisters.

“It hurts so much, but I couldn’t talk about it,” Lisa said. “I put on a good face in the morning and then came home at night to emptiness. I was told to pull up my bootstraps and be tough.”

Not only was Lisa expected to be tough, she attached shame to her miscarriages. She was single. Each child had the same father, but Lisa had never married him. A minister told her she lost her children because she was a sinner. That's why Lisa didn't want to share her real name with readers. She still suffers silently.

Each child Lisa lost had genetic problems. She never was able to give birth to a healthy baby. After her last miscarriage, Lisa gave away her baby bed and furniture to a poor family whose baby was sleeping in a dresser drawer. It gave her some measure of comfort. Her experience also gave her a different outlook on life. “It makes you more protective of living children.”

In a follow-up column, we’ll look at the grief attached to miscarriage and talk about ways to find and offer comfort.

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Woman sues over Costa cruise miscarriage Seeking $1.4 million in damages from company Up to 32 people are feared to have died in the disaster

A PREGNANT woman who miscarried after the cruise ship wreck off the coast of Italy last month is set to sue the vessel's owners for one million euros ($A1.2 million) in damages, Italian media says.

The 30-year-old Italian, identified only as Cristina M, was four months pregnant when she set off on the Costa Concordia cruise on January 13. Though she escaped the sinking ship in a lifeboat, she was admitted to hospital last week with a miscarriage.

Her doctors said she likely lost her baby because of the intense psychological stress suffered both during the night-time evacuation and when her lifeboat smashed up against rocks as it headed for the nearby shore.

Christina M's lawyers will add her to a class action against Costa Crociere and seek one million euros ($A1.2 million) in damages for the miscarriage, reports said.

The 114,500-tonne liner with more than 4200 people aboard ran aground on rocks off Tuscany's Giglio Island and lurched on to its side as passengers were settling down to dinner shortly after the start of a Mediterranean cruise.

Up to 32 people are feared to have died in the disaster, which has led to a host of legal claims against the stricken ship's parent companies.

Costa Crociere and advocacy groups representing survivors have struck a deal in which around 3000 survivors are to receive 11,000 euros ($13,500) each plus the cost of the cruise and expenses.

Six passengers in the United States however are suing Carnival Lines, Costa Crociere's parent company, demanding compensation totalling $US460 million ($430 million).

In France a number of passengers have rejected the deal and filed legal complaints with the French courts, and in Germany, a group of 19 tourists have filed criminal charges against the captain Francesco Schettino.

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Woman sues over Costa cruise miscarriage Seeking $1.4 million in damages from company Up to 32 people are feared to have died in the disaster

A PREGNANT woman who miscarried after the cruise ship wreck off the coast of Italy last month is set to sue the vessel's owners for one million euros ($A1.2 million) in damages, Italian media says.

The 30-year-old Italian, identified only as Cristina M, was four months pregnant when she set off on the Costa Concordia cruise on January 13. Though she escaped the sinking ship in a lifeboat, she was admitted to hospital last week with a miscarriage.

Her doctors said she likely lost her baby because of the intense psychological stress suffered both during the night-time evacuation and when her lifeboat smashed up against rocks as it headed for the nearby shore.

Christina M's lawyers will add her to a class action against Costa Crociere and seek one million euros ($A1.2 million) in damages for the miscarriage, reports said.

The 114,500-tonne liner with more than 4200 people aboard ran aground on rocks off Tuscany's Giglio Island and lurched on to its side as passengers were settling down to dinner shortly after the start of a Mediterranean cruise.

Up to 32 people are feared to have died in the disaster, which has led to a host of legal claims against the stricken ship's parent companies.

Costa Crociere and advocacy groups representing survivors have struck a deal in which around 3000 survivors are to receive 11,000 euros ($13,500) each plus the cost of the cruise and expenses.

Six passengers in the United States however are suing Carnival Lines, Costa Crociere's parent company, demanding compensation totalling $US460 million ($430 million).

In France a number of passengers have rejected the deal and filed legal complaints with the French courts, and in Germany, a group of 19 tourists have filed criminal charges against the captain Francesco Schettino.

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My mother has had the disease for over twenty years. When I began to feel random pain a year ago, I suspected I had the condition as well. (There does seem to be a hereditary component to the disease). My doctor told me Fibromyalgia is a diagnosis of exclusion. In may case, my doctor tested me for Lupus, Rheumatoid Arthritis and Thyroid disorders as well as other issues. When all that blood work came back negative, I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia.

Because there is no definitive test for the condition, many doctors do not even believe it exists. Those that do believe it, often know very little about it. Often patients will see many doctors and be misdiagnosed several times before a doctor recognizes the condition. For some reason, the condition affects many more women than men. New research theorizes that patients with the condition may be stuck in the fight or flight response.

Currently, there is no evidence to suggest that Fibromyalgia can cause a miscarriage. Despite causing exhaustion and pain, Fibromyalgia and probably making pregnancy extra uncomfortable, it does not seem to cause any serious issues for a developing fetus.

However, there may be a connection between developing Fibromyalgia and having a miscarriage. Doctors aren't sure what causes Fibromyalgia but it may be due to the bodies inappropriate response to an infection, prolonged stress or experiencing a trauma. Not much research has been done but it seems possible that a traumatic miscarriage could cause other physiological problems. Additionally, if you suffer a miscarriage while you have Fibromyalgia, the stress may send you into a flare up.

As always, you can check with your doctor if you have concerns.

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Dear Amy: I had a miscarriage last year around this time. I
was in a horrible state at first and then started cheering up,
but now I'm feeling depressed.

I don't know if it's because the anniversary of this
miscarriage is coming up or what else it could be — but I don't
know what to do.

Should I tell my family and friends or doctor? I just don't
want to be depressed about it anymore.

I have other kids to think about but I just can't stop thinking
about the one I lost. What should I do? — Feeling
Depressed

Dear Depressed: It is completely understandable that you
would experience grief and sadness at this time — especially if
you “held it together” for your children after your
miscarriage.

Please, reach out to others, realizing that not all people are
capable of responding.

Some will try to erase your grief by insisting that you focus
on the positive instead of understanding your pain.

Your doctor should understand and will prescribe medication or
refer you to a therapist if she believes you are clinically
depressed.

For many grieving people, knowing you are not alone is one key
to healing. Your hospital will have information about local
miscarriage support groups.

Read “I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and
Recovery,” by Ellen M. DuBois and Linda R. Backman
(CreateSpace, 2006).

Dear Amy: A couple of years ago, because of a
falling-out over money we lent to our son, we were told that we
were no longer welcome in their lives.

We continued to send monetary gifts to the two grandchildren
for birthdays, Christmas and graduation, with no acknowledgment
at all.

This year, the day after Christmas we received a phone call
from our 18-year-old grandson saying that he'd received our
Christmas card but there was nothing inside. He wondered if
something had fallen out.

I advised him that nothing was inside but our “good wishes,”
explaining that he was an “adult” now.

Because he sounded so pleasant and it was so nice to hear his
voice after so long, I “chickened out” of telling him that we
hadn't sent money because we have never been thanked for
previous gifts of money.

We continued with a very pleasant “catching up with his life”
conversation. Now I am feeling guilty about not sending him any
money (although we are still sending it to his younger sister).
— Torn

Dear Torn: Your gifts and grants of money have caused
nothing but trouble in your family, and yet the first thing
that occurs to you after you've had a decent encounter with a
family member is to reward him by sending money.

Can you build upon this encounter without shelling out cold,
hard cash?

You have told this young man that he is an “adult.” Now respect
him enough to tell the truth so that he might see the
connection between his behavior and the consequences.

He needs to understand that if he had picked up the phone to
say thank you, he might not have had to pick up the phone to
ask, “Did my check fall out of the envelope?”

If he taps into his gratitude, you will be more likely to feel
generous in the future. Contact him, be honest and say you'd
love to stay in touch.

Dear Amy: More feedback for “Bah Humbug.” I hope she
follows her heart on how to celebrate the holidays next year.

My husband and I radically changed our celebration this year,
each observing the season in our own way, and it was just
lovely.

The sky didn't fall. Friends and relatives are still speaking
to us, and we're certainly speaking to one another, smiling,
and asking why we didn't do this sooner.

I suspect that Bah may just discover that, freed from a frantic
baking/shopping/wrapping/decorating fiend of a wife full of
resentments and expectations, her husband may come through with
some heartfelt gestures to observe the season that she will
truly appreciate.

That's what happened to us. — Happy New Year in Virginia

Dear Happy: I've heard from many readers who had a
serious case of the “Bahs” this year. Thank you for the
inspiration to do things differently.

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Your coworker shared her good news that she was pregnant. Later, you learn that she has miscarried, so you:

A. Say nothing, some things are private

B. Leave flowers on her desk with a note

C. Tell her you are there if she wants to talk.

As Baby Loss Moms, we are confused by this quiz. Can we pick B and C? How thoughtful for someone to acknowledge the real pain of returning to work after something so devastating with the offer to talk. And what a keepsake to treasure in the baby’s memory box, a note and perhaps some flowers to dry out and save.

I myself couldn’t decide which answer was better. “A” was obviously the throw away option.

But then I read Peggy Post’s answer:

A. With a good friend you would be more personal, but saying nothing is the best approach–until she shares the news with you. Then, offer your support.

What?

So, I’m picturing this scenario. Your coworker, coming in after a few days off, all she was allowed in many cases because there isn’t a funeral, sits at her desk. She knows everyone knows she was pregnant. (According to the quizlet, she “shared her good news.”) She’s got a staff meeting in a few hours, and she’s barely holding it together. Last time she sat at her desk, she was expecting a baby.

How does she “untell” her pregnancy? How will she even keep from falling apart? So far the only person who knows is her boss and one friend she had handling her phone calls and mail.

She walks down the line of cubes to get her mail from the friend and notices no one looks her way, as though she is train wreck it isn’t polite to stare at. She turns back around, rattled. Everyone must know. Should she send an email out? Ask her boss to? Will this make it worse?

Peggy Post, supported by Good Housekeeping, thinks that because this coworker doesn’t stand by the break room door and announce, “I’m not pregnant anymore! Be nice to me!” that she doesn’t want or need anyone’s cards, flowers, or even kind words. According to this magazine, you are to say nothing.

This is not common sense, and surely not common decency. If this woman’s mother had died, or her husband, you would hug her or offer condolences. Peggy Post, and by extension, Good Housekeeping, has just told thousands of subscribers that unborn babies are different.  It’s best not to talk about it.

Baby Loss leaders have worked hard to make miscarriage less of a silent pain, something we are allowed to feel, to be upset about, to mourn. Good Housekeeping has just set us back immensely. Imagine the outcry if Peggy Post had told readers never to bring up breast cancer, or divorce, topics that once were taboo but now can be openly discussed.

Many Baby Loss Moms have written Letters to the Editor, which may or may not see print, and even if so, will be long after the damage is done to the casual reader who might remember this advice for years. Still, we can try. Write Good Housekeeping at ghletters@goodhousekeeping.com

Many Baby Loss Moms have expressed their outrage on the magazine’s Facebook page. Feel free to continue to remind them that we are here, and we are not going to say nothing.

When the Facebook comments hit a zenith thanks to the work of Nikki on her blog, Good Housekeeping did respond within the thread. The answer was hard to find and even though I knew it was there, I had to read for 20 minutes to locate their response:

We talked to Peggy Post about your comments and here is what she wanted us to share with you: “Thank you for your feedback – a powerful reminder of the power of emotions and the importance of empathy. You, our readers, are so correct; I totally agree with you that reaching out to this grieving mother – regardless of a concern to respect her privacy – is truly the correct answer. Even if her miscarriage had not yet been general knowledge among her co-workers, a one-on-one heartfelt “I’m so sorry” would have been better than waiting to express condolences. This Pop Quiz is misleading and caused hurt and concern for our readers. For this, I sincerely apologize.” — Peggy Post

I can respect an apology, even though it has a jab in it (“regardless of a concern”).

Now let’s help Good Housekeeping correct its error. They need to write something longer, something their subscribers will actually read and learn from, to erase this terrible error from the minds of the readers, and impart good and useful information for a tragedy that is so common, 1 out of every 4 women will experience it.

So to suggest a full-length article on helping friends, family, and coworkers after a miscarriage, write ghletters@goodhousekeeping.com

You can also write Peggy Post, who wrote the quizlet, directly at peggypost@goodhousekeeping.com
[NOTE: Peggy's email is bouncing for some reason--but this is the one Good Housekeeping lists. There are some addresses when you go to the Emily Post Etiquette web site, but I doubt any of those will go to Peggy.]

But please, whatever you do, don’t say nothing. This misinformation must end now.

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