The crippled Costa Concordia lists as passengers take to its lifeboats. Picture: AP Source: AP
Woman sues over Costa cruise miscarriage Seeking $1.4 million in damages from company Up to 32 people are feared to have died in the disaster
A PREGNANT woman who miscarried after the cruise ship wreck off the coast of Italy last month is set to sue the vessel's owners for one million euros ($A1.2 million) in damages, Italian media says.
The 30-year-old Italian, identified only as Cristina M, was four months pregnant when she set off on the Costa Concordia cruise on January 13. Though she escaped the sinking ship in a lifeboat, she was admitted to hospital last week with a miscarriage.
Her doctors said she likely lost her baby because of the intense psychological stress suffered both during the night-time evacuation and when her lifeboat smashed up against rocks as it headed for the nearby shore.
Christina M's lawyers will add her to a class action against Costa Crociere and seek one million euros ($A1.2 million) in damages for the miscarriage, reports said.
The 114,500-tonne liner with more than 4200 people aboard ran aground on rocks off Tuscany's Giglio Island and lurched on to its side as passengers were settling down to dinner shortly after the start of a Mediterranean cruise.
Up to 32 people are feared to have died in the disaster, which has led to a host of legal claims against the stricken ship's parent companies.
Costa Crociere and advocacy groups representing survivors have struck a deal in which around 3000 survivors are to receive 11,000 euros ($13,500) each plus the cost of the cruise and expenses.
Six passengers in the United States however are suing Carnival Lines, Costa Crociere's parent company, demanding compensation totalling $US460 million ($430 million).
In France a number of passengers have rejected the deal and filed legal complaints with the French courts, and in Germany, a group of 19 tourists have filed criminal charges against the captain Francesco Schettino.
A PREGNANT woman who miscarried after the cruise ship wreck off the coast of Italy last month is set to sue the vessel's owners for one million euros ($A1.2 million) in damages, Italian media says.
The crippled Costa Concordia lists as passengers take to its lifeboats. Picture: AP Source: AP
Woman sues over Costa cruise miscarriage Seeking $1.4 million in damages from company Up to 32 people are feared to have died in the disaster
A PREGNANT woman who miscarried after the cruise ship wreck off the coast of Italy last month is set to sue the vessel's owners for one million euros ($A1.2 million) in damages, Italian media says.
The 30-year-old Italian, identified only as Cristina M, was four months pregnant when she set off on the Costa Concordia cruise on January 13. Though she escaped the sinking ship in a lifeboat, she was admitted to hospital last week with a miscarriage.
Her doctors said she likely lost her baby because of the intense psychological stress suffered both during the night-time evacuation and when her lifeboat smashed up against rocks as it headed for the nearby shore.
Christina M's lawyers will add her to a class action against Costa Crociere and seek one million euros ($A1.2 million) in damages for the miscarriage, reports said.
The 114,500-tonne liner with more than 4200 people aboard ran aground on rocks off Tuscany's Giglio Island and lurched on to its side as passengers were settling down to dinner shortly after the start of a Mediterranean cruise.
Up to 32 people are feared to have died in the disaster, which has led to a host of legal claims against the stricken ship's parent companies.
Costa Crociere and advocacy groups representing survivors have struck a deal in which around 3000 survivors are to receive 11,000 euros ($13,500) each plus the cost of the cruise and expenses.
Six passengers in the United States however are suing Carnival Lines, Costa Crociere's parent company, demanding compensation totalling $US460 million ($430 million).
In France a number of passengers have rejected the deal and filed legal complaints with the French courts, and in Germany, a group of 19 tourists have filed criminal charges against the captain Francesco Schettino.
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31-01-2012 17:52 Sharing my process of losing my 8 week old unborn baby Tristan. I focus on miscarrying naturally and handling the baby’s body with respect afterwards. I hope I can help other women explore their options when this tragic event occurs. Please note, I know this is not possible for some women but also alot of women dont know their rights and options to not be bullied by hospitals by being handle to handle this naturally as well as making them aware of their rights to their baby’s body if they dont want it treated like “medical waste”.
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What is Fibromyalgia and does it have a connection to miscarriage? Fibromyalgia is a neurological condition the symptoms of which include chronic pain and non-restorative sleep. Patients with the condition have tender points or localized specific spots of pain as well as widespread pain in other places. Pain can be achy, like when you have the flu or tingling or burning like a sunburn. Fibromyalgia can go into a remission of sorts and patients may feel little pain during that time. Fibromyalgia can also go into a flare up during which pain may be especially intense.
My mother has had the disease for over twenty years. When I began to feel random pain a year ago, I suspected I had the condition as well. (There does seem to be a hereditary component to the disease). My doctor told me Fibromyalgia is a diagnosis of exclusion. In may case, my doctor tested me for Lupus, Rheumatoid Arthritis and Thyroid disorders as well as other issues. When all that blood work came back negative, I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia.
Because there is no definitive test for the condition, many doctors do not even believe it exists. Those that do believe it, often know very little about it. Often patients will see many doctors and be misdiagnosed several times before a doctor recognizes the condition. For some reason, the condition affects many more women than men. New research theorizes that patients with the condition may be stuck in the fight or flight response.
Currently, there is no evidence to suggest that Fibromyalgia can cause a miscarriage. Despite causing exhaustion and pain, Fibromyalgia and probably making pregnancy extra uncomfortable, it does not seem to cause any serious issues for a developing fetus.
However, there may be a connection between developing Fibromyalgia and having a miscarriage. Doctors aren't sure what causes Fibromyalgia but it may be due to the bodies inappropriate response to an infection, prolonged stress or experiencing a trauma. Not much research has been done but it seems possible that a traumatic miscarriage could cause other physiological problems. Additionally, if you suffer a miscarriage while you have Fibromyalgia, the stress may send you into a flare up.
As always, you can check with your doctor if you have concerns.
DEAR AMY: I had a miscarriage last year around this time. I was in a horrible state at first and then started cheering up, but now I'm starting to feel depressed about it again.
Dear Amy: I had a miscarriage last year around this time. I
was in a horrible state at first and then started cheering up,
but now I'm feeling depressed.
I don't know if it's because the anniversary of this
miscarriage is coming up or what else it could be — but I don't
know what to do.
Should I tell my family and friends or doctor? I just don't
want to be depressed about it anymore.
I have other kids to think about but I just can't stop thinking
about the one I lost. What should I do? — Feeling
Depressed
Dear Depressed: It is completely understandable that you
would experience grief and sadness at this time — especially if
you “held it together” for your children after your
miscarriage.
Please, reach out to others, realizing that not all people are
capable of responding.
Some will try to erase your grief by insisting that you focus
on the positive instead of understanding your pain.
Your doctor should understand and will prescribe medication or
refer you to a therapist if she believes you are clinically
depressed.
For many grieving people, knowing you are not alone is one key
to healing. Your hospital will have information about local
miscarriage support groups.
Read “I Never Held You: Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and
Recovery,” by Ellen M. DuBois and Linda R. Backman
(CreateSpace, 2006).
Dear Amy: A couple of years ago, because of a
falling-out over money we lent to our son, we were told that we
were no longer welcome in their lives.
We continued to send monetary gifts to the two grandchildren
for birthdays, Christmas and graduation, with no acknowledgment
at all.
This year, the day after Christmas we received a phone call
from our 18-year-old grandson saying that he'd received our
Christmas card but there was nothing inside. He wondered if
something had fallen out.
I advised him that nothing was inside but our “good wishes,”
explaining that he was an “adult” now.
Because he sounded so pleasant and it was so nice to hear his
voice after so long, I “chickened out” of telling him that we
hadn't sent money because we have never been thanked for
previous gifts of money.
We continued with a very pleasant “catching up with his life”
conversation. Now I am feeling guilty about not sending him any
money (although we are still sending it to his younger sister). — Torn
Dear Torn: Your gifts and grants of money have caused
nothing but trouble in your family, and yet the first thing
that occurs to you after you've had a decent encounter with a
family member is to reward him by sending money.
Can you build upon this encounter without shelling out cold,
hard cash?
You have told this young man that he is an “adult.” Now respect
him enough to tell the truth so that he might see the
connection between his behavior and the consequences.
He needs to understand that if he had picked up the phone to
say thank you, he might not have had to pick up the phone to
ask, “Did my check fall out of the envelope?”
If he taps into his gratitude, you will be more likely to feel
generous in the future. Contact him, be honest and say you'd
love to stay in touch.
Dear Amy: More feedback for “Bah Humbug.” I hope she
follows her heart on how to celebrate the holidays next year.
My husband and I radically changed our celebration this year,
each observing the season in our own way, and it was just
lovely.
The sky didn't fall. Friends and relatives are still speaking
to us, and we're certainly speaking to one another, smiling,
and asking why we didn't do this sooner.
I suspect that Bah may just discover that, freed from a frantic
baking/shopping/wrapping/decorating fiend of a wife full of
resentments and expectations, her husband may come through with
some heartfelt gestures to observe the season that she will
truly appreciate.
That's what happened to us. — Happy New Year in Virginia
Dear Happy: I've heard from many readers who had a
serious case of the “Bahs” this year. Thank you for the
inspiration to do things differently.
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In the February 2012 issue of Good Housekeeping, the magazine printed this pop quiz written by Peggy Post, now the head of Emily Post’s etiquette institute:
Your coworker shared her good news that she was pregnant. Later, you learn that she has miscarried, so you:
A. Say nothing, some things are private
B. Leave flowers on her desk with a note
C. Tell her you are there if she wants to talk.
As Baby Loss Moms, we are confused by this quiz. Can we pick B and C? How thoughtful for someone to acknowledge the real pain of returning to work after something so devastating with the offer to talk. And what a keepsake to treasure in the baby’s memory box, a note and perhaps some flowers to dry out and save.
I myself couldn’t decide which answer was better. “A” was obviously the throw away option.
But then I read Peggy Post’s answer:
A. With a good friend you would be more personal, but saying nothing is the best approach–until she shares the news with you. Then, offer your support.
What?
So, I’m picturing this scenario. Your coworker, coming in after a few days off, all she was allowed in many cases because there isn’t a funeral, sits at her desk. She knows everyone knows she was pregnant. (According to the quizlet, she “shared her good news.”) She’s got a staff meeting in a few hours, and she’s barely holding it together. Last time she sat at her desk, she was expecting a baby.
How does she “untell” her pregnancy? How will she even keep from falling apart? So far the only person who knows is her boss and one friend she had handling her phone calls and mail.
She walks down the line of cubes to get her mail from the friend and notices no one looks her way, as though she is train wreck it isn’t polite to stare at. She turns back around, rattled. Everyone must know. Should she send an email out? Ask her boss to? Will this make it worse?
Peggy Post, supported by Good Housekeeping, thinks that because this coworker doesn’t stand by the break room door and announce, “I’m not pregnant anymore! Be nice to me!” that she doesn’t want or need anyone’s cards, flowers, or even kind words. According to this magazine, you are to say nothing.
This is not common sense, and surely not common decency. If this woman’s mother had died, or her husband, you would hug her or offer condolences. Peggy Post, and by extension, Good Housekeeping, has just told thousands of subscribers that unborn babies are different. It’s best not to talk about it.
Baby Loss leaders have worked hard to make miscarriage less of a silent pain, something we are allowed to feel, to be upset about, to mourn. Good Housekeeping has just set us back immensely. Imagine the outcry if Peggy Post had told readers never to bring up breast cancer, or divorce, topics that once were taboo but now can be openly discussed.
Many Baby Loss Moms have written Letters to the Editor, which may or may not see print, and even if so, will be long after the damage is done to the casual reader who might remember this advice for years. Still, we can try. Write Good Housekeeping at ghletters@goodhousekeeping.com
Many Baby Loss Moms have expressed their outrage on the magazine’s Facebook page. Feel free to continue to remind them that we are here, and we are not going to say nothing.
When the Facebook comments hit a zenith thanks to the work of Nikki on her blog, Good Housekeeping did respond within the thread. The answer was hard to find and even though I knew it was there, I had to read for 20 minutes to locate their response:
We talked to Peggy Post about your comments and here is what she wanted us to share with you: “Thank you for your feedback – a powerful reminder of the power of emotions and the importance of empathy. You, our readers, are so correct; I totally agree with you that reaching out to this grieving mother – regardless of a concern to respect her privacy – is truly the correct answer. Even if her miscarriage had not yet been general knowledge among her co-workers, a one-on-one heartfelt “I’m so sorry” would have been better than waiting to express condolences. This Pop Quiz is misleading and caused hurt and concern for our readers. For this, I sincerely apologize.” — Peggy Post
I can respect an apology, even though it has a jab in it (“regardless of a concern”).
Now let’s help Good Housekeeping correct its error. They need to write something longer, something their subscribers will actually read and learn from, to erase this terrible error from the minds of the readers, and impart good and useful information for a tragedy that is so common, 1 out of every 4 women will experience it.
So to suggest a full-length article on helping friends, family, and coworkers after a miscarriage, write ghletters@goodhousekeeping.com
You can also write Peggy Post, who wrote the quizlet, directly at peggypost@goodhousekeeping.com
[NOTE: Peggy's email is bouncing for some reason--but this is the one Good Housekeeping lists. There are some addresses when you go to the Emily Post Etiquette web site, but I doubt any of those will go to Peggy.]
But please, whatever you do, don’t say nothing. This misinformation must end now.
The Associated Press The Associated Press STORM LAKE, Iowa An arraignment has been scheduled for a Storm Lake man who police say gave his girlfriend medicine that caused her to have a miscarriage. Online court records show a hearing for 31-year-old Yoirlan Tome-Rojas is scheduled for Feb. 6 in Buena Vista County. KTIV reports (http://bit.ly/zi7WeJ ) that Tome-Rojas is charged with conspiracy …
Sad news for Teen Mom 2‘s Leah Messer. The MTV reality star’s fiancee, Jeremy Calvert has confirmed that she recently suffered a miscarriage and is no longer pregnant with the couple’s first child together. Read on for more details on Leah and Jeremy’s heartbreaking loss, and to find out how the two are coping. Weeks [...]
Dear Amy says: I had a miscarriage last year around this time. I was in a horrible state at first and then started cheering up, but now I'm starting to feel depressed about it again.
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